Wednesday, 6 June 2018

Week 6 [04-10.06.2018] How to build trust

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14 comments:

  1. 1. Is it easy for you to trust someone?
    2. Have you ever experienced major trust fail?
    3. Do you agree with argument that fundamentals of trust are: empathy, authenticity and logic?
    4. Are you able to trust somebody again?

    1. It was but after many years I learned not to trust so much. Unfortunately such is our reality and we must adapt in order to survive or at least not to suffer a lot.
    2. I did a few times. It is painful experience... I think trust is very important in humans' lifes. It connects one with another and allow to act in this world. When a thread of trust breakes, in major situations, it is like cutting your body, like an assassination on your life..
    3. I would agree with empathy and authenticity, but not especially with logic. Maybe I do not understand it clearly but for me it has not much to do with logic, even on the contrary. Instead of logic I would put there an attachment.
    4. Yes I am but yet after a longer check up :)

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  2. 1. In my opinion trust should be earned and figured out between people who want to trust eachother. It is not an easy process and it should not be.

    2. Probably like everyone in their lives i have. It is difficult experience but very much needed.

    3. Definitely both empathy and authenticity take big part in forming a trust and they most certainly are fundaments on which a trust can be built

    4. Yes i am, but not to a degree from before a trust fail

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  3. 1. Is it easy for you to trust someone?
    I try to trust everyone but after years it gets harder for me to achieve that.. They can break vows or lie to you but they are just people. Try to forgive them as no one is perfect.

    2. Have you ever experienced major trust fail?
    Yes, a few times. I hated that feeling. It almost hurts in a physical way as someone was breaking you but it teaches us a lesson how to get though that.

    3. Do you agree with argument that fundamentals of trust are: empathy, authenticity and logic?
    Definitively empathy is the most important when building trust. I would not suggest using logic as sometimes can be deceiving.

    4. Are you able to trust somebody again?
    Yes, it takes time and effort but it’s doable.

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  4. The topic is very hard to discuss to and it’s very personal matter. When I meet some person it’s hard for me to trust. I need some time to trust somebody. I don’t know if it’s possible to trust somebody after first meeting but it’s also depends on type of trust. Some of people look scary at first sight and it’s very hard to be polite or even want to talk to with that person. When we meet people in work it’s easier to trust because we know that employer trust that person and we also can. It’s harder to trust somebody for example on the street when some stranger ask as for a favour and even money. I’d like to trust for other people who are my friends and I’d like to be close to them when we build our relation on trust. I haven’t ever experienced major trust fail I’m lucky because of it. It’s hard to be the part of situations when you see how your trust is lost. No, I don’t agree that fundament of trust is logic. I think that we can’t say about trust it’s connected with logic. There is no logic in such comparison! I can agree that empathy and authenticity is very fundamental of trust. No, there is no chance to trust somebody again when that person failed in the past. I couldn’t trust for sure, but it’s only my opinion and I aware that I’m very tough.

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  5. 1. It seems to me that the more we get to know another human being, the better we can tell if we can trust him.

    2. Yes, I experienced the fall of trust. After such a fall, it is difficult to trust again.

    3. I think that logic has nothing to do with it. I would add to authenticity and empathy, sincerity.

    4. Of course. Now I try to trust the person who failed me and I believe that it will be done over time.

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  6. 1. It's depend on specific person. I rather thrust everyone, but I think that there are exceptions to this rule.
    2. Obviously. And as Ewelina above said - is's difficult to trust again for that person. Unfortunately my current boss cheated me once, so now I cannot trust him.
    3. Probably yes. It's optimistic features. I also heard that people who curse a lot are truthful.
    4. It depends on offence, but usually yes ;)

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  7. 1. Is it easy for you to trust someone?

    No, I don't trust easily, even earlier, I was pretty distant. But after time, my trust strengths. I think it’s a very healthy attitude.

    2. Have you ever experienced major trust fail?

    No, I have never experienced major trust because I tend to be overly cautious. But what is trust fail to someone, don'thave to be someone else.

    3. Do you agree with argument that fundamentals of trust are: empathy, authenticity and logic?

    It sounds logical, most definitely trust is a mix of these things. You can't blindly without logic, trust someone.

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  8. 1. Is it easy for you to trust someone?
    Actually I don't trust people at the beginning, when I barely know them. After some time the bond gets stronger, but I try to keep everybody on some distance to myself. So, no it's not easy. Maybe it's because I don't even trust myself :)

    2. Have you ever experienced major trust fail?
    Yes, I did. But it's very personal so I don't want to write it on public.
    3. Do you agree with argument that fundamentals of trust are: empathy, authenticity and logic?
    Yes of course, especially authenticy. When somebody is lying you just can't trust them. Or when somebody treats you like he/she doesn't care that means that person doesn't even like you. Of course there are circumstances that sometimes have to be considered.
    4. Are you able to trust somebody again?
    Yes, If he/she would try hard, and won't hurt me again, why not? Everybody makes mistakes, we are just humans, and forgiving each other is the most human thing that we have, the same justifies to mistakes. Because animals don't forgive, and that makes us other than them, even we are very close in biological sense.

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  9. 1. Is it easy for you to trust someone?

    No. I used to be more trustworthy. Now, from the perspective of various experiences, it is difficult for me to trust a newly met person. It is also difficult to trust someone who has failed once.

    2. Have you ever experienced major trust fail?

    Yes. It is a very painful experience, but the positive side is that you can learn a lesson for the future.

    3. Do you agree with argument that fundamentals of trust are: empathy, authenticity and logic?

    I do not agree with this statement. In my opinion, the most important fundamentals of trust are honesty, truthfulness and loyalty.

    4. Are you able to trust somebody again?

    I think so, but it depends on the situation. I could give someone a second chance if I really cared about this person. However, this would have to be based on a change in behavior that led to the loss of that trust.

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  10. 1. Is it easy for you to trust someone?
    I'm a confident person by nature. I do not suspect anyone of a lie or deliberate misbehavior until the trust is broken. Later it is difficult for me to trust again.
    2. Have you ever experienced major trust fail?
    yes, I experienced. It's hard to trust again and become suspicious.
    3. Do you agree with argument that fundamentals of trust are: empathy, authenticity and logic?
    In part, yes, although instead of logic, I would choose the consequences
    of action.
    4. Are you able to trust somebody again?
    if a huge amount of work on both sides was made possible. Theoretically, you always have a second chance, if not the second, third and eighth.

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  12. Is it easy for you to trust someone?
    I don't think it's easy for me to trust someone. I'm usually very cautious around people. It probably makes my life a bit harder and less satisfactory.

    Have you ever experienced major trust fail?
    I don't believe that I have. I don't even know what I should consider a major trust fail. Maybe that's a good thing because it can mean that it actually has never happened to me.

    Do you agree with argument that fundamentals of trust are: empathy, authenticity, and logic?
    When I think about it, it definitely seems like those three, empathy, authenticity, and logic, are a recipe for gaining trust. I see it at work. I remember at least one situation when answering my employee's difficult question I told the truth instead of something that I thought she wanted to hear. I had no idea what would happen next but, as it turned out, she almost immediately felt visibly better. I remember thinking that she must have felt that what I said was the truth even if it wasn't easy, and that she preferred hearing exactly that, because it meant she can trust me.

    Are you able to trust somebody again?
    I'm not sure if I ever would be able to trust again somebody that has broken my trust in the past.

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  13. 1. Is it easy for you to trust someone?

    Well it depends.. I trust people which I ask about road to some place.. but I wouldn't lend them money ;)
    So everythings depends on matter of case.

    2. Have you ever experienced major trust fail?
    Yes - many times. And I've learned not to demand from people more they can give you.. it's simple as this - you only have to decide how much they are able to give.

    3. Do you agree with argument that fundamentals of trust are: empathy, authenticity and logic?
    Yes I think that all you need to know to decide how much you can trust someone.


    4. Are you able to trust somebody again?
    Yes I have no problem with that.

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  14. 1.From my own experience, I think that trust comes with time.
    2.Unfortunately, as probably everyone, I experienced a loss of trust. However, in my opinion, such situations strengthen us in life and show who is a real friend.
    3.I agree with the fact that fundamentals of trust are: empathy, authenticity and logic. The most important of these is empathy, only understanding other people can create a real relationship.
    4.I am a very empathic and sensitive person, so I think I can trust another person.

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